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When to Contact Your Date after Meeting for the First Time

The first time you meet someone you are interested in dating the meeting should give you a better chance to connect. If the meeting goes well, you will want to ask them out for another date where you can start building a stronger foundation for a possible relationship. The timing is important, and many people overlook this. If you ask too soon you come across as needy and can push them away. If you wait too long you run the risk of them having met someone else already and assuming you weren’t interested. Here’s how you can best gauge when the contact is most appropriate.

Mode of Communication

If you met this person online, it’s okay to drop them a message telling them you had a great time with in the first 24 hours after the date. However, you should avoid mentioning wanting to set up a second date right away. You can say that you enjoyed yourself and look forward to another meeting, but leave it open ended without asking for formal plans. If you didn’t meet online, you want to wait a couple days before you call. A text message is appropriate saying the same thing you would if you were online.

When to Call

The general rule of thumb is three days. This is the magic number for a couple reasons. One, it doesn’t make you seem needy. After a good first meeting you want to allow the other person to be able to think about the connection a little bit. It also helps to build anticipation. If you call them the very next day to ask for another date you come across as desperate and no one wants to date this person.  Unless you’ve already told your date that you will be out of town for a while, you should wait no more than three days to call. If you wait more than three days they will assume you are no longer interested. If you’ve met online, they will probably go back online and try to make plans with someone else. You can call after the three day mark, but don’t be disappointed if they turn you down.

Should You Send Naughty MMS Photos To Your Date

Sending naughty MMS photos can be a great way to entice someone. However, not everyone will be receptive to this. Knowing whether it’s appropriate to send will vary based on several factors. Here are a couple things to consider.

Where You Met

If you met your date on an adult oriented dating site, then they are probably going to be more open to getting naughty photos. It’s not a bad idea to ask before you just decide to send them. If you met them on a traditional dating site, they may not be looking for the same type of adult connection.

When to Send

If you’ve already determined that they are open to receiving these messages, you need to pay attention to when you are sending them. While it may be a welcome surprise to receive a naughty MMS message during a boring day at the office, you don’t want to run the risk of the message being opened while in a meeting or when anyone else can see them. If you do decide to send them during work hours, be sure you clearly mark them as not safe for work. The acronym NSFW is universally known today, and will signal the receiver not to open it in front of people.

When Not to Send

It’s not a good idea to send sexually explicit photos unless you are swingers and have already agreed this activity is okay. Also don’t send these types of photos before a first date unless you’ve met them on an adult site and it’s been deemed acceptable. This can come across as creepy to someone who’s not expecting it, and you may find yourself searching for another date when they cancel.

Regretting Late Night Drunken Texts

We’ve all had a little much to drink from time to time. It’s not uncommon to send text messages to people during these moments. Unfortunately, once you send the message you can’t take it back. You can recover from even the worst messages you can imagine if you are smooth about it.

Damage Control

Before you make a federal case out of the event, check your phone to see how bad the text was. If it was just a silly text saying hello at 3am, then don’t sweat it too much. If, on the other hand, it was a raunchy text that you wouldn’t have sent under normal circumstances, then you need to start thinking of an apology. Don’t text the apology either. Give the person a call once your head is in the right place and you are feeling okay and tell them you had too much to drink and did not mean anything that you said. Allow them to be angry with you. Give them a few days to calm down, and try to call again. This is normally all it takes. If they don’t answer the phone when you call them the first time, then it’s acceptable to text the apology. Once you send it, give them time. Don’t start calling of texting them several times a day, as this can make the situation worse.

Prevention

A lot of new phones have technology that will require you to complete simple tasks that aren’t simple when you are drinking before you can send a text or email. Set this up to prevent this from happening again. If your phone doesn’t have this option, turn it off and set a password on it to use it again. This won’t stop you, but it may delay you enough in a drunken stupor to prevent sending anything you may regret later.

Initiating the Question of a Second Date

The first date is only the beginning. If you got along well and felt chemistry, the second date will be when you can start forming a solid foundation for a potential relationship. It’s customary for the man to ask for the first date, but a second date can be initiated by either person. Here’s the best way to approach this for either sex.

For the Woman

It may look aggressive if you call and ask for a second date. Many men are scared off by this aggression. However, you can pull it off if you time it right. First, try to ask while on the first date. Leave the question open though, as though you aren’t actually trying to make plans. For instance, ‘This was a lot of fun, I can’t wait to do it again!’ is a great way to open the door for the second date without coming right out and asking. If the guy knows that you really did enjoy yourself and want a second date, it takes a lot of the pressure off them to ask you.

For the Man

Since it’s expected for the man to be a little more aggressive, you have more options for asking for the second date. The timing does matter though. If the first date went well you can try to set up a second date before the first one ends. Don’t ask them to out the very next night. Instead try to ask if they would like to do this again in the next week. If you are on the fence about whether you want a second date or not, don’t set it up that night. Wait the customary two-three days to call and ask over the phone. A word of caution here – if you call the next day you look needy, if you wait more than three days you look uninterested.

How to Sex Text and Spice up Your Relationship

Sexting, or sex texting, is a great way to add some flavor to your relationship. Since many cell phone plans now have unlimited text options, you may not have to pay extra to use this feature. Sexting is completely safe; no worries about STDs or other issues, and you can do this just about anywhere. Many people are afraid to start sex texting because they don’t know how to start. Once you do it a few times it gets easier and can get a lot out of it. Here are some simple ways to start.

Just Think

Sit and think about what really gets you hot with your partner. Is there a certain way they kiss you, caress your face, or something else that really gets you going? This is how you should start out. Send a message telling them how much you enjoy that and why. The biggest thing in sexting is to be descriptive. When they kiss you that way how does your body respond? This is the hottest part of sexting.

Waiting

If you’re sexting your partner for the first time, it may take them by surprise. Don’t panic if you don’t hear back right away. Give it some time. They may not text back that day, but when you see them again you should see an increase in their sexual desires. After a few times of sexting they should be more comfortable with it. Also remember that timing is everything. If you start sexting them while they are at work, you may not get a response right then. Try to keep the timing appropriate and just let things unfold naturally.

How to Flirt By Text

As technology increases and advances, we have many more options for communication. Most cell phone providers now offer unlimited text packages for very little money. A text message is a great way to send a short note with a lot of meaning without having to deal with emails or bother someone with a phone call. This also means it is possible to flirt and build a stronger foundation with your dates by flirting. Since text messages are designed to be under 160 characters, it can be a challenge to flirt over text. Here are some simple tips that will help you out.

Make an Impact

With text flirting you have very little room to say a lot. Make your messages short and simple. If you want to tell that person that their eyes are beautiful, think of some creative ways to say this in just a few words. If you want to make it spicier, make short statements that are open ended. For instance, if you have a date planned, don’t say something like ‘looking forward to our date’, as this sounds too bland. Instead, talk about a particular object or aspect of the date. ‘I got a new sexy dress for our date’, or ‘I can’t wait to see you in your sexy dress’ are much better ways to send a more sexual message without sounding creepy or going over the text limit.

When to Send

You can flirt by text virtually anytime of the day. Even if your date or partner is at work, a text message will be there when they choose to open it. If you are sending something more explicit in nature, be sure to mark it as NSFW (not safe for work) so they know when it’s appropriate to open.